This memorial website was created in the memory of our loved one, Cody Wilson who was born in Maryland on August 20, 1992 and passed away on April 22, 2007 at the age of 14. We will remember him forever. Be sure to read "His Legacy"... if you have a myspace account, you can view his other memorial page at: http://www.myspace.com/rip19922007
Cody Joseph Wilson
Cody Joseph Wilson, of Salisbury, died Sunday, April 22, 2007. He was a student at Bennett Middle School.
He was the son of Ferrill W. Wilson Jr. and Christina K. Parker. He was truly the best person we have ever known.
Cody is an awesome spirit and was loved dearly by his family and friends. He was always an excellent student, was well-respected by his teachers, and was an uplifting and encouraging friend to his classmates. He enjoyed a variety of sports: baseball, soccer and football, and held a black belt in tae kwon do. He especially enjoyed dodgeball, paintball, and hanging out with all of his friends. He loved playing online computer games, talking and texting on the phone all at the same time, and laughing and cracking jokes with everyone around him.
Cody is Greek for "Helper" and that definitely described him. He was always there to lend a helping hand, a listening ear, a kind word and a soft smile to lift your spirits. There is no greater love than the love of a son.
He is survived by a stepmother, Holly Wilson; a stepsister, Logan; sisters, Angela and Faith; maternal grandmother, Loretta Parker; paternal grandparents, Ferrill and Blanche Wilson; maternal great-grandfather, Woodrow W. Parker Sr.
He was preceded in death by his maternal grandfather, E. Leroy Parker.
The funeral service was held at Allen Memorial Baptist Church Internment is at Wicomico Memorial Park on Snow Hill Rd. Salisbury, MD
You were so full of life, Always smiling and carefree, Life loved you being a part of it, And I loved you being a part of me.
You could make anyone laugh, If they were having a bad day, No matter how sad they were, You could take the hurt away. Nothing could ever stop you, Or even make you fall, You were ready to take on the world, Ready to do it all. But God decided he needed you, So from this world you left, But you took a piece of all of us, Our hearts are what you kept.
Your seat is now empty, And it's hard not to see your face, But please always know this, No one will ever take your place.
You left without a warning, Not even saying good-bye, And I can't seem to stop, Asking the question why? Nothing will ever be the same, The halls are empty without your laughter, But I know you're in Heaven, Watching over us and looking after. I didn't see this coming, It hit me by surprise, And when you left this world, A small part of me died. Your smile could brighten anyone's day, No matter what they were going through, And I know everyday for the rest of my life, I'll be missing you. Love Always, Your Friends
"Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding: in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your path". Proverbs 3:5-6
I've learned that: Goodbyes will always hurt, Pictures never replace Having been there, Memories good or bad Will always bring tears, And words can never Fully express those feelings.
When you lose a parent ~ You lose your past When you lose a spouse ~ You lose your present When you lose a child ~ You lose your future
"Everything God does is love ~ even when we do not understand Him."
"You will not 'get over this' but with the peace and strength God provides, you will 'get through it'."
Your Life. / Amanda Kern (Good Friend )
Well, Its been about a year and four months. so far. and Gosh! its been rough with out him.
Cody was the coolest, besteest, nicest person ever to have as a friend and nothing could have changed that.
Though i wasnt one of those people who hung ou...
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~ THERE'S A REASON ~ / Mom
As some of you have heard, there have been charges placed on Gurney for the accident that occured when Cody passed away. Most of you don't really know the real story of what happened that day. Because I chose not to focus on the accident itself, but ...
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MY CHILD / GOD (Cody's Heavenly Father )
My Child... You may not know me, but I know everything about you... Psalm 139:1 I know when you sit down and when you rise up... Psalm 139:2 I am familiar with all your ways... Psalm 139:3 Even the very hairs on your head are numbered....
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Myspace / Mom
I just wanted to say that if you truly want to see what an impact Cody's life has on those around him, you need to see the myspace pages. You can set up an account for free, then request to become "a friend"...I approve ALL requests...no ma...
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Just a Poem written by my mom / Taylor Smith (friend)
Walking With Angels You’re walking with the angels now We have only memories left of you But, you’ll always be within our hearts As your walk with us is through. God has come to take you home But we can only wonder why Why did he take our...
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GOD NEEDED U WITH HIM / Kiana Milbourne (none)Read >>
Cody Joseph Wilson August 20, 1992 to April 22, 2007 Dr. William Warren Pastor of Allen Memorial Baptist Church Salisbury, MD
You may say, Cody was robbed, but was he? Imagine that you, and Cody and I, for the last several years have been living in a shack. 8 ft. by 10 ft. with a mud floor and no electricity. It's miserably hot in the summer and bitterly cold in the winter. And the food is nothing to write home about either, for breakfast we have cabbage soup, for lunch we have cabbage soup, and for dinner, you guessed it, we have cabbage soup. And on a good night we might have a little peanut butter. Then all of a sudden Cody moves to Hawaii. Not you and me, just Cody, moves to Hawaii. To a wonderful mansion, 5,000 square feet, right on the ocean. Cody has his own room, and what a room it is! 60 inch plasma flat-screen t.v., stereo with surround sound, and the food? Oh, the food is wonderful in this mansion....steak, hamburgers, ice cream, whatever you want~whenever you want it. Would you and I say that when Cody moved from our shack to Hawaii, he was robbed? No. We might instead wonder when do we get to go?
Cody is no longer with us, but Cody was not robbed. Cody was removed to a place that is so much better than this one. To a place where no one ever feels like crying. To a place where nobody ever dies, nobody ever gets sick, and nobody ever wishes they were somewhere else. Cody was removed to a place where God is the light, and there is no darkness. To a place where everything and everyone is new, and everythingand everyone is beautiful. And where everybody serves God night and day and loves it. And I can guarantee you if you were to ask Cody, "Would you like to come back to earth?" He would say, "As much as I miss my family, NO WAY!"
Cody is in heaven, not because he was a good kid, not because he was a nice kid, but because we believe in the last few weeks of Cody's life, he made a decision to put Jesus on the throne of his life. And what that means is that Cody said, "From now on I want to live for Jesus Christ and not for me". And because he made that decision and asked Jesus Christ to be the forgiver of his sin, and the leader of his life, Cody is now in heaven. Cody was not robbed, Cody was removed...to a place amazingly better than here. But why? Why did he die at such a young age? Leaving his family and his friends to feel robbed? You may say, because there is no God. How could a thing like this happen and there be a God? Cody was just at the wrong place, at the wrong time, there's no reason for this...it makes no sense you might say. But it makes even less sense to say there is no God. For to say there is no God is to say there is no creator. To say there is no creator is to say that everything around us just suddenly occured-that nothing x nothing = everything.
Why did Cody die? You may say because God couldn't prevent it. He couldn't? The creator of the earth, the one who set the stars in the sky, and knows them each by name, the one who keeps the universe spinning...He couldn't prevent the car from turning over? Why did Cody die? You may say because God didn't care enough to keep it from happening. He didn't? Like Ferrill and Christy, God only had ONE SON. And He sent His only Son to die on a cross to pay for Cody's sins. So that when Cody died, he would be removed to heaven. No my friend, God loves Cody more than we do.
Why did Cody die? Because God had a plan for Cody's life. It is written in a language that we cannot read. But is a plan none the less. And it's a plan worthy of the death of this fine, young man. For you see, God understands the worth of an ONLY SON. And the worth of an only daughter. God would never waste the life of an only son, and God would never waste the death of an only son. God had a plan for Cody's life. It's a plan written in a language that you and I cannot read. But I believe God gave me a hint this morning, as I was on my knees in silence, not even thinking about this service. I think he gave me a hint about that plan. Somehow the plan involves John 12:24. Jesus Christ has just predicted His own death. Then He says " I tell you the truth, unless a kernel of wheat falls to the ground and dies, it remains only a single seed. But if it dies, it produces many seeds". I believe God is using the death of Cody Wilson to plant many seeds, to produce fruit for His kingdom. To produce many new believers. To produce many new followers of Jesus Christ. To produce many new people who when they die will follow in Cody's footsteps.
God loved Cody. God never wastes a life. And He never wastes a death. And while you and I don't like it, and we're extraordinarily sad today, God didn't waste Cody's life or his death. And if you think for a minute there's no sense in this and there's no reason for this...my friend, I would lovingly tell you, you're wrong. I don't know all the elements of the plan, but I know God is using this young man's death for a cause worthy. Cody was not robbed, he was removed, for a reason. But, you probably feel robbed, and as best I can, I understand. I've never lost a son, but I have lost both of my parents. This is worse. You probably feel robbed. Please remember, that if you love Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, there will be a reunion. This is not good-bye today. This is see-you-later.
And one day, because you love Jesus Christ, with all your heart and soul, one day because Jesus Christ is on the throne of your life, you'll be reunited with Cody. Then you'll be able to laugh with him again, run with him and sing with him, and do whatever you want to do with him for the rest of eternity. This is not goodbye, but yes, the wait will stink. The wait for that day will bring much suffering. But you will receive what you need, if you look to God. God comforts his suffering people. And God gives strength to those who don't have any strength. Whatever you will need, if you will look to God through Jesus Christ, you will receive it. You'll receive strength when you don't think you can handle one more day without him. You'll receive strength and comfort when you hear a song that reminds you of him and suddenly you just start crying. You heart is broken all over again. You'll receive strength and peace to carry you through this. You will never get over it, but you will get through it. For God's word says, "My God will supply all of your needs according to His glorious riches in Christ Jesus. You don't see how you're going to make it, but through God, you will. And He will carry you in His arms, until that day comes when He will carry you, to the mansion in Heaven, and to the presence of this boy you love so much. Cody is fine today. We're the ones who are struggling. But God will see you through, because He loves you.
Prayer: Clearly God, Your ways are not our ways. And sometimes what You allow to happen, doesn't make sense to us. We don't understand fully what You're doing. But I'll tell You what I don't understand God, I don't understand why You loved us enough to send Your only Son, to suffer and die in our place. I'll never understand that. But I thank you today that because You did that, Cody's with You. And I thank You that because You did that, Cody is in heaven. Cody is whole and happier than he's ever been in his entire life. And I thank You that in the last few weeks especially, you touched that young man's heart because You knew what was going to happen last Sunday, April 22. You knew what was going to happen God, and You in your grace, pulled Cody into church. And You in Your grace put Cody right where he needed to be, to hear what he needed to hear, to make the decision he needed to make. Because You're gracious, and You said, "This boy's time is up, I am going to use his life, but I am going to take him to be with me. Forever. I thank You Lord God that You knew what You were doing. I thank you that you do everything that you do, out of a heart of crucified love. Oh God, we've all been devastated by this, even those who didn't know Cody very well, we've just been devastated. We've been especially devastated for the family. but I thank You, God, that You're going to be faithful to them, that You're going to carry them. That You're going to be patient with them when they feel like yelling at You because they're probably going to. I thank You that You're going to carry them and comfort them. I just pray Lord God that every single one of them will make the decision that Cody made if they haven't yet. That they'll put Jesus Christ at the throne of their heart, to have the peace that you gave Cody, and to have the future that you gave him as well. I make this prayer in the strong name of Jesus Christ, Your only Son...Amen
When a Single Seed is Planted... Cody was born to be a silent leader. He was quiet and unassuming, yet commanded your attention...mostly because he had an aire of sweet innocence about him. There was something different and special about Cody that attracted people to him. I honestly don't believe he had any enemies. Throughout his years, in school and at home, he was eager to please and thoughtful and kind. When he was about 3-4 years old, he stayed at Buttons & Bows Daycare. There was a little girl in his class that had an extremely rare genetic disorder. She was a little like the progeria kids...tiny, like a baby, yet was about 4 years old. She never grew, she even looked like a baby (not aged at all). Well, Cody, for reasons unknown other than the kindness and purity of his heart, took this little girl under his wing. He watched over her like a bodyguard, and helped her with everything she did throughout the day. If she needed help getting into or out of a chair, if she needed someone to hold her hand to walk across the playground, if she needed someone to push her in the swing, to help her with her shoes, to help her with her blankets at naptime, to help with her lunches and snacks....whatever the need was...he was ALWAYS there to help her. He literally stayed by her side all day. The caregivers didn't know how or why this came about...but I knew, it was as simple as knowing he was a special child. You can't MAKE a kid be that way...it has to come from the heart. That is why his name was Cody...we didn't know it when his dad picked it...but it was part of his legacy. Cody is Greek for "Helper"... and that is what he was...he was a helper by nature...and continued to be throughout his life. He was the kind of student that teachers wanted in their classroom. I used to get calls from the teachers who would have him in the upcoming year...and they were so happy that Cody would be their student. His reputation preceded him. He was an honor-roll student throughout elementary, and also qualified for the GATES program in middle school (though he chose not to stay in it because it interfered with his social time...too much homework!). At home Cody was the type of kid that NEVER got in trouble. In fact I used to worry about what would happen later in his life if he did get into trouble because he didn't know how to take punishment or consequence. And at one point, I had to make a conscious effort to correct him over things, just to have him understand that you can make mistakes, and have to accept change or correction. But it was very rare that there was ever a reason to punish or correct him. Now, I'm not saying he was a perfect angel...ask Mrs. Pinhey at Bennett Middle School. Ask her about the "stink-bomb incident". Yes, Cody single-handedly orchestrated a stink bomb brigade that included several other students and disrupted an entire day of classes...as they were released at different times of the day. Mrs. Pinhey reluctantly had to suspend Cody, though she said that she thought he was the only one who was honest about his involvement...and policy dictated that he had to be suspended. We laughed the whole way home...I never yelled at him...I knew his heart was in it for fun, not malice. I honestly wish I had spent more time around him with his friends. Because I have come to know that they truly love him almost as much as his family does. I would have loved to see him hanging out with them, been a "fly on the wall" so to speak...because we have always felt he was quiet...but his friends tell a different story at times. I know he spent many, many hours, late into the night at times, on the computer, playing interactive online games, but always still instant-messaging AND texting at the same time...oh and watching tv also! Boy, was he good at multi-tasking! But either way, it seems he was always there for them, they had their own repoire, and I hope they cherish those special moments forever. I know I will never forget the vision of him sitting on the couch with the laptop and the remote and cellphone...mastering each one and enjoying every minute of it. He was also into paintball, as many of you know. And I am so glad that even though it was a really expensive sport...I never denied him the opportunity to go paintballin' with his friends. Either he worked for the money to go...or I happily gave it to him...and I am so glad I did. Because that was where a lot of great memories were made, that I also hope his friends cherish and hold on to. He developed many very close relationships with his friends...he was not a reclusive type of teenager, he was always a part of whatever was going on around him...and I am so thankful for that. He was shy, but once you got to know him, his sneaky side came out...ask any of the guys that got shot in the butt more than once with a paintball at close range! And these relationships are the other part of his legacy. And this is the most important part...the part I want all of you to read, to know and to remember. If you haven't heard the story yet...please read on.... About 2 weeks before Cody's passing, he had gone to church with us for an Easter Cantata. The name of this musical presentation was "On a Hill Far Away". Now mind you, Cody was not big on going to church. Usually he wanted to sleep in as he had been up most of the night, gaming, texting, IM'ing and watching tv. But this was a Thursday night...and he didn't object to going. Well, on Friday, he was helping David move tables and chairs to our new church property for an Easter Egg Hunt on Saturday. Cody noticed 2 wooden crosses sitting off to the side of the pavilion...and noticed the large hill of fill-dirt from the construction site of the new church. He told David that this reminded him of "On a Hill Far Away". Well, of course, that was it...the crosses had to be placed on that hill...and David went and got the third cross and placed them all on that 45' high hill...what an awesome spiritual experience for him. And the crosses are still there, we invite you to see them, on Snow Hill Rd. near the bypass. Cody came to church that Sunday (Easter) and didn't say much to me after the service, but it was just the beginning of the legacy. Then the following weekend, we went to church, and the second weekend he ASKED to go to church...and even though I was not planning on it...I am forever thankful I got up and we went...this was the day he passed away. Now, mind you, I don't think Cody had shared this info. with his friends...I think it was all fresh and new to him, and he was sorting out his thoughts during this process. But he was definetly being led to the Lord...quietly, but strongly. During that service, and during the prayer that Ryan led for the youth~ to pray to recieve Christ...Cody wept. I know those tears, those are the tears of acknowledgement and power from the Holy Spirit. When people are moved to tears, something is happening within them. And later that same day Cody shared some insight with Gurney about placing Christ on the throne of your heart....as they were driving down that road...just before the accident. God was in control of that truck. As much as we want to believe we are in control...we are not! And God had a plan for Cody. And there was nothing Gurn, or anyone else could do about it. Now, don't think for a minute that I was or am happy that this happened. I have struggled with this for weeks now, but I KNOW in my heart that God had a plan, and He knows better than us what is good for us. And we can't change that. I was SO ANGRY with God...to the point of hating Him...yes, I admit that...that is how angry I was. And I am still not over being angry, but I am seeing what Cody's legacy was all about...He was planting a seed. When I heard about the reaction of the friends and faculty at Bennett Middle School, I knew this was what it was all about. I knew that Cody had a legacy. And all along during that week I told everyone...it's all about these kids...it's all about his friends. That's why I wanted to have the Tuesday night service...for his friends. Because I knew God was using Cody...even though I didn't agree with it. But you see, it's not up to me. If it were up to me, he would be here now...sitting on the couch, talking and laughing, and his stupid computer game would be saying..."I need more power"...over and over again. But that is selfish of me...and I don't know what is best. If Cody had lived, maybe he would have been handicapped or disabled, living in an institution for the rest of his life...but instead he is in Heaven...better known to some as Hawaii :) and we are stuck here in this dirt-floor shack. But the reality is...Cody's legacy is that his friends and anyone who is reading this...need to recognize how important it is to heed the call of God. Don't hesitate, just say yes...just know that God wants to know you, He wants a relationship with you, He is the only way to have the strength to get through this. And don't ignore Him, you may not get a second chance. Through my struggles with this, our pastor, Dr. Warren, has reminded me of these things, and shared with me how God led him to use the scripture of John 12:24 for Cody's funeral service. He said he has never used that scripture in a funeral service before. And I am going to close this by sharing that scripture with you...this is from the "Life Recovery" Bible...because yes, we are all recovering from Life in one form or another...waiting to be called to heaven...doing what we can to survive, but ever striving for knowledge and strength...just look in the right place, and you will find it. I will also share with you the scripture God led me to use during the service, which is Ephesians 3:14-19...God Bless and Keep You....Love, Christy
John 12:23-24 (Jesus is speaking) 23. Jesus replied, "The time has come for the Son of Man to enter into his glory. 24. The truth is, a kernel of wheat must be planted in the soil. Unless it dies, it will be alone-a single seed. But its death will produce many new kernels-a plentiful harvest of new lives. 25. Those who love their life in this world will lose it. Those who despise their life in this world will keep it for eternal life. 26. All those who want to be my disciples must come and follow me, because my servants must be where I am. And if they follow me, the Father will honor them.
Ephesians 3:14-19 (Paul is speaking) 14. When I think of the wisdom and scope of God's plan, I fall to my knees and pray to the Father. 15.the Creator of everything in heaven and on earth. 16. I pray that from His glorious, unlimited resources He will give you mighty inner strength through His Holy Spirit. 17. And I pray that Christ will be more and more at home in your hearts as you trust in Him. May your roots go down deep into the soil of God's marvelous love. 18.And may you have the power to understand, as all God's people should, how WIDE, how LONG, how HIGH, and how DEEP His love really is. 19. May you experience the love of Christ, though it is so great you will never fully understand it. Then you will be filled with the fullness of life and power that comes from God.