I do not know you or did I know Cody. What I do know is that as a Mother I feel your pain. I wanted to send you my love and prayers. May God stand with you and continue to guide you. You are a brave women.
"And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to Him must believe that He exists and that He rewards those who earnestly seek Him." Hebrews 11:6
To please God we must believe that He exists, that He is what the Bible says He is. And the Bible declares, "God is love." I John 4:16
I don't know if Cody ever heard or read these particular scriptures, but this was the topic of Dr. Warren's sermon last Sunday. He went on to say that "faith is the substance of things hoped for "... things God has promised to do. This is where it truly puts us to the test. Cody believed in Jesus, and put his life and soul in God's hands. And I TRULY believe that Cody is in heaven. Because I believe in God's promise also. "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him shall not perish but have everlasting life". John 3:16. That used to be a verse that I heard all the time and thought I knew the meaning of ~ and thought I had "faith" in God's promises. But when you are put in a situation like this... when your only son passes away without warning or explaination... your faith is truly put to the test. Because you simply... at gut level... need to know where he went, you need to know how he is, you need to know why he can't be here with you. You need answers.
Some people say "He didn't deserve this". And NO, if you view death as a "punishment", certainly Cody didn't deserve it!! But death is not a punishment... it is the next step to knowing God... to seeing God, to being with God, to knowing true-unconditional love, to peace beyond compare, to living in a paradise that our minds cannot even fathom. But it is not a punishment... not to a Christian. And God truly wants ALL of us to be there, to be in heaven with Him. Not everyone will make it... not everyone believes. But when you are faced with death head-on and are not given a choice of how, when and where, or how you say your goodbyes... you find yourself digging deep into your soul... to the things you know you wanted to believe (about God, salvation and heaven)... but you never found the time to really give much thought to. Well, trust me... you will find the time to give it much thought... and much more thought, and much more thought... until you find yourself thinking about it every minute of every day. And you come to the conclusion that God is right... only He knows when our time is coming... and only He knows what's in our hearts... and only He knows what we are capable of, what we can and can't handle (God never puts more on you than you can bear... but you have to bear it by seeking help from Him).
Only God can get you through... because as Bill has said... "You will never get over this, but with God's help you will get through it". And he's right. I will NEVER get "over this" because to do that would mean I had put it all behind me and forgotten just how much I love my son, and how much I miss him and how truly thankful I am that he was a part of my life, and how painfully thankful I am that he is in God's loving arms now, and not my own. Because NO ONE can love a person more than God loves them... and Cody deserves that love... he absolutely deserves it (because He believed in Jesus and loved God)... maybe it came sooner than we all would want ~ because we as humans are selfish, we don't want to "let go and let God". We want our kids and family here with us... because we think they are better off here, that we can treat them better or love them more... than GOD! And I'm sorry to say, we are not capable. We cannot possibly love someone more than God loves them, it's not humanly possible.
We live in doubt and fear and anxiety because we don't have FAITH! We don't have faith enough to trust that God knows better than we do, what is right for us. Faith is celebrating God's promises... because when you celebrate, you do not despair, you do not doubt, you do not worry, you do not quit. You trust God that He will provide for you... whatever you need, and He will fulfill His promises. And the promise of "eternal life" is the greatest promise of them all... but I do have faith that God is standing by His word. And so I am thankful that God gave us a way to that promise and to heaven... by sending His Only Son, to pay the price we should have paid... for being human.... so that we can come to know Him and be with Him in a perfect paradise... and to be able to see our loved ones again. Because I truly believe we will... someday...
"Oh Lord, You have examined my heart and know everything about me...Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex....You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed" Psalm 139:1, 14, 16
I finally found this passage, as people had mentioned it along the way, and I found some comfort in knowing that our lives are mapped out by God, He knows what is going to happen, that's why He's always there for us... just as He was there for Cody... that's why He touched Cody's heart and spoke to him... why He gave Cody the comfort of knowing Him, and the grace of his salvation...because He knew Cody was going to pass away from this earth...and He knew when... I am just so thankful that Cody listened and let God lead him and accepted God's gift... because if I didn't know Cody was in heaven, I would absolutely lose my mind. I cannot imagine having him die without knowing that he accepted Jesus... and was taken to be with Him in heaven. This experience has put such a deeper understanding of the importance of a relationship with God in my heart... because I no longer think just about the here and now... today, this place, this time.... because I have come to realize this is not the know-all ~ end-all. This is just the beginning... the stepping stone to eternity... which is an awful long time.... and we have to go somewhere when we leave here.... I want to go where Cody is...
It takes great faith... / Mom Sometimes it feels as though I'm going forwards and backwards. Sometimes I am totally accepting of the fact that God is in control and knows better what is right for us. Then other times it feels so unfair and so wrong. I know that all things happen for good for those who trust in Him... and I do... but when you are put into a position like this... it is hard to see any good that can come out of it. I guess that is what is meant by "Faith". So I have to trust that God has a good plan... and that Cody is better off in heaven than he would have been here. I think sometimes about the way this world is... how awful it can be... that people suffer terrible health problems, or get trapped in addictions that totally control their minds and lives... and that people can be so mean and hateful... and that "mother nature" can be unforgiving... kids are shooting kids in school, or in the least bullying and terrorizing the weak. If we really stop and think about it, we may all wish we were in heaven instead of this hell we call earth. Of course Cody didn't wish to die... no one does unless they are suffering terrible physical or mental problems.... but God knows that this world is coming to it's own demise, and maybe that is why He takes the "good people" first. The examples they set for us are so distinct and so memorable, that we learn from them and continue to grow ourselves. While I don't have specific names, I do know that several of Cody's closest friends have made a profession of Faith, and have put God first in their lives also. That is what is most important now... to have friends and family stop and think about what life is really all about in the first place. It's not about work, bills, money, houses, cars and hobbies... it's about learning, growing, trusting and knowing God... developing that relationship so that when we leave this earth, we are prepared for what comes next.... Cause there is a lot of "next" to come... I am so thankful to God to have been given the precious ~ priceless gift of over 14 years of joy... watching Cody grow and mature, build great friendships and memories for them... setting the standard for them... being a role model and confidant, smiling and laughing more in the last year than his entire life, and being thankful for what he had. He is truly an awesome spirit... his spirit lives on... and will continue to inspire and encourage us for all the days of our lives...
God's Grace / Mom
The Life Recovery Bible's footnote on John 12:23-25 (the scripture Dr. Warren was led to use for Cody's funeral message)...says that "Jesus explained why he would have to die. He said, in effect: 'I must die so that I can bring new life to you. If you want this new life, then turn away from your current way of living!' This message can be hard for us to accept, just as it was for the people of Jesus' day. But in order to move forward we must accept it. We must honestly embrace the painful realities in our life and patiently allow God's love to make us whole." Cody was on a journey. We had talked on numerous occasions about the trappings of this world...about how hard it is to fight the influences, about how important it is to stand on your beliefs. Cody was always respected by his friends and by the adults in his life. He set a strong example in the way he treated people...always fair, always understanding, always compassionate. Yet, he was missing something...a relationship with God and the forgiveness that comes from Christ's death and God's grace. When he found that relationship and received that grace from God...he was complete...he was whole. He already knew deep down how to treat people and that is what I mean by being a silent leader. He had such an influence on his friends...he encouraged the girls to stay away from the guys that would not treat them right, he encouraged the guys to act like they had some sense. He refused drugs and alcohol and cigarettes. He frowned on bad attitudes and loud people. He liked peace, happiness and sincerety. He had morals. But he also had fun...good clean fun...and showed his friends how to do the same. He set an example and he encouraged people, as he continues to encourage them still ~ through his memories. And he taught us to appreciate life and to look to God...because we don't know when it is our time...no one knows. But when God calls, we should listen. Cody did...even though he didn't shout it from the mountaintops, he told enough people about his relationship with God, that we know he accepted Him wholeheartedly and put God first. He still loved his family and friends, but he recognized that God is the Father and Jesus is our saviour and the only way to real peace, and he respected that. I wish I had the opportunity to share more with him, and to know more of what he was feeling...but that just wasn't meant to be. There's one thing I do know...Cody knows he is loved...he has always known that...loved by his family, friends and God. What more could we want from life? The life we live here on this earth is only to learn and grow into a spiritually mature soul...to learn about God, to accept God and Jesus, and to be ready to serve Him forever...He "got it", at such a young age...but he "got it". When will we? And will it be before it's too late?? God's grace is always there...we just have to accept it.
I Didn't Know Him, But Wanted To Pay Tribute To Him :( / Justin Seymore (Nothing) I never knew Cody, and never heard of him, but seeing all these condolences makes me see how good of a friend he was to his friends, and how good of a child he was. No one has ever figured out why God takes the good ones first, but there must be a reason, I'll keep you in my prayer's along with your family and friends. It's hard to lose someone you love, and I know the pain and sorrow that you all are going through. I hope to meet you someday, and to become friends with you. I'm sorry for the lose of Cody Wilson....:(
Cody, I miss you! / Jennifer Nicolas (Closee Friend ) Cody! I miss you so much, it isn't fair. 2 Months and 4 days. i miss and love you so much! you will always be in my heart. you were seriously the best! you didn't deserve this at all! i remember on monday when we found out, i didn't want to believe it, and then sitting in math and gym, that was the worst. only you know what i would do to see you and hear one more fat joke. i can't wait to see you again! maybe i'll lose weight by then so you can't make fun of mee! and you should lift some weights so you can staple a couple papers! just kidding. this shouldn't of happened to you, but we all know your in a better place, have fun in hawaii and save room for me. I miss your blue eyes, :) love you always and forever! watch over us :]
Being angry is not a sin. It's what you DO in anger that is sinful. Anger occurs when you, or those who are important to you, are threatened. We need to deal with our anger promptly. There is a process by which we can process anger that allows us to move on to positive things, and not become stuck. If we don't deal with our anger, it festers and becomes unbearable. We can't deal with it alone, we can't will it away, we have to process it and ask for God's help.
The process for dealing with anger is simple, yet crucial: 1. Admit it. We have to recognize and admit we are angry about something in order to begin to heal. 2.Analyze it. We have to recognize what the threat is...how did this anger work it's way into our life? What provocated it? 3. Attack it through prayer. Anxiety causes anger. We must face the anger, acknowledge it...and present it to God. We must ask God to remove it from our heart, then we must LET IT GO...let God remove it, give us peace, accept the peace. 4. Act on God's directive. We must forgive and ask for forgiveness. This is the only way to peace and the healing of our hearts.
"Let the day of your anger, be the day of your reconciliation."
"ANGRY AT GOD"
I told God I was angry. I thought He'd be surprised. I thought I'd kept hostility quite cleverly disguised.
I told the Lord I hate Him. I told Him that I hurt. I told Him that He isn't fair, He's treated me like dirt.
I told God I was angry but I'm the one surprised. "What I've known all along," He said, "you've finally realized.
"At last you have admitted what's really in your heart. Dishonesty ~ not anger was keeping us apart.
"Even when you hate Me I don't stop loving you. Before you can receive that love you must confess what's true.
"In telling Me the anger you genuinely feel, it loses power over you, permitting you to heal."
I told God I was sorry And He's forgiven me. The truth that I was angry has finally set me free.
By: Jessica Shaver
There are no words that can better describe the way I have felt throughout this process. I was so angry with God that I hated Him. I absolutely hated Him. I have since come to realize that God IS good to us, that He still loves us...that Cody was a precious gift...on LOAN to us...Because God loves him WAY more than we are ever capable of...that is why He sent HIS SON to sacrifice HIS life so that when we pass on from here...as WE ALL WILL DO...we can join God in heaven, instead of suffering for eternity. Cody is in such a better place than we are...and there is no sadnessor pain there...and he probably doesn't even know why we are so sad...when he is so happy....happier than we can imagine or wrap our minds around. Eternity is a LONG, LONG time...this life is fleeting and short compared to that...and thank God for that since on earth we do know sadness and pain. But if we accept Jesus, and put God first in our lives...just as Cody did...we won't have to suffer in sadness and pain forever...Heaven is a PERFECT and WONDERFUL place...we just can't see it yet...but someday we can...if we just BELIEVE. And in the meantime, we have to acknowledge our anger, process it, ask God to remove it, and let it go...then we can begin to heal and know just what God is capable of doing for us. We are still here because we have more to learn. But people are put in our lives to TEACH US lessons...LIFE LESSONS....
Maybe Cody had it all figured out...as loving, kindhearted, sweet and pure of heart, helpful, accepting and lovingof people in spite of their weaknesses and shortcomings, encouraging and forgiving and truly caring as he was....he had it all figured out already. All he needed to know was God...he needed to know God and Jesus. And when he finally came to know them...and accept them, and put them truly first....he got the reward...though it doesn't seem like a reward to us....to be taken from this earth....it truly is...because heaven is a better place....that is the promise God ~ who created us...has given us...and I do believe that is what we all have to look forward to ....if only we can BELIEVE.
The Expression of Tears / Mom
The Expression of Tears
God has a plan for your pain...it is called tears. Why should we apologize for something that is a gift from God? "How long did Jesus grieve? He wept. He let the pain of the death of his friend Lazarus overcome Him. And he knew the seperation was temporary...
Go on and cry a river. Let it rain down like tears from heaven. And let it cleanse and carry you to the arms of the one who will be strong for you. Pour it out to God.
God moves "near to the brokenhearted, and saves those who are crushed in spirit" Psalms 34:18
Grief is slow. It will take longer than you have patience for. Don't let others rush you through this process. Let your grief do it's healing work at it's own slow pace. Grief cannot be put on a fasttrack.
If you follow your tears, you will find your heart. If you find your heart, you will find what is dear to God. And if you find what is dear to God, you will find the answer to how you should live your life.
Your identity is changing. And fear and anxiety accumulate. "I cried out to the Lord in my suffering, and He heard me. He set me free from all my fears." Psalms 34:6
Cody, I sponsored this site thru your friends...forever...so all can continue to come here and speak to you, remember you and honor you...forever...You Are Loved!!
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